Flying With Children

Bilingual children are often "frequent flyers" at a very young age! Visits to grandparents and other family members often mean long flights across oceans and continents. These trips can be adventures for everyone, but they are also often stressful and tiring, especially when things don't go according to plan. Like the time we missed connections and were rerouted - but our luggage wasn't, and went AWOL over a long holiday weekend! This page is intended to share the benefit of our experience and what we've seen and heard from other travelling families, and to help other families planning long plane trips.

The Basic Rules

  1. Delays happen.
  2. Prepare for the worst, hope for the best.
  3. Be patient.
A Thought About Medicines: Some parents give their children a small dose of an anti-histamine (anti-allergy medicine), a motion sickness treatment, or another medicine to make the child sleepy before the trip - hoping the child will sleep or at least be more content to sit quietly during the journey. If you're considering this, please talk with your doctor, and please give this a try at home first. A small number of children become jittery or nervous from these medicines, and some may become just sleepy enough that they find the new environment hard to cope with.

General Thoughts on Carry-Ons

My personal preference is for each person old enough to walk to take a backpack as carry-on luggage. Backpacks keep hands free - for holding on to children, wiping noses, tying shoelaces, and fishing out tickets and passports when approaching checkpoints. Even small children can carry a little something in their backpacks, and will feel proud to be helping. Older children can carry their school backpacks - they are used to carrying them, and they are just the right size.

From about the age of six onward, we've let our kids choose what goes into their backpacks (with the exception of the Emergency Carry-On Supply System mentioned below). The only rule is that each child has to be able to carry his backpack himself. Younger children will of course need help.

Cindy's Un-Patented Emergency Carry-On Supply System: This proved hugely valuable when our luggage decided to spend the weekend in Amsterdam without us!

The original version of this plan called for two bags for each person, a First Night Bag and a First Morning Bag. Recent restrictions on carrying liquids and gels on airplanes mean that most people will also need to have a Liquids Bag. The Liquids Bag must be a 1 liter or 1 quart zipper-top bag. In my experience large (4 liter or 1 gallon) zipper-top bags are best for the First Night and First Morning Bags, but regular supermarket-type plastic bags will work, too.

For the First Night Bag, lay out everything each person will need the first night. Pajamas, toothbrush, contact lens solution, everything you use every night. Don't forget children's loveys and pacifiers, as appropriate. Put the liquids in the small bag, and pack the rest in the large bag. Press as much air as possible out of the large bag, seal it, and pack it in the bottom of the carry-on. Now do the same thing with additional things each person will need for the next morning; clean clothes are obvious, but also think of combs, make-up, and other things that make you feel ready to face the world. Again, liquids need to go in the small bag, the rest goes in the larger bag. The Liquids Bag goes on top of the carry-on or in an outside pocket so it can be easily removed at security checkpoints. The larger bags go at the bottom so they are out of the way during flight.

Now, no matter how delayed your flight is, or what adventures your luggage may take without you, everyone has what they need to go to bed and get a good night's rest - and feel ready to tackle the next day's challenges. Even if everything goes according to plan, you will know that you don't need to unpack everything to find your toothbrush that first night.

Babies and Toddlers

Books

For any child old enough not to eat them, books are terrific for long flights. They are quiet and require little space and no batteries! Little ones can look at picture books, older children may enjoy novels or non-fiction books about their current obsessions. As much as you can, let the kids pick some familiar friends, and then add a new book.

Toys

Rules for your own sanity and that of your fellow passengers: Beyond that, nearly anything small enough to carry along is fair game. Crayons and paper are classics, of course, as are reusable stickers (Colorforms etc.) and travel games.

Many younger children enjoy getting new toys on the plane, wrapped up like presents. The unwrapping itself helps to pass the time. Make a rule ahead of time that, for instance, one new toy may be opened each hour.

Electronic Gadgets

A good in-flight personal entertainment system is a godsend for those flying with children, and nearly all airlines have individual screens at all seats on long-haul flights now. That doesn't mean they're all good, though, particularly when it comes to child-friendly entertainment. Some parents want to bring other things to help the kids entertain themselves, though, and the list is getting longer all the time. The cassette Walkmans that were the latest big thing in my misspent youth have been joined by - well, practically replaced by - GameBoys and other portable game systems, portable DVD players, MP3 players, and laptop computers that can do all of these functions.

If your child already has one of these items, or has used one in the past and liked it, it is probably worth taking along. Remember headphones/earbuds for the sake of those sitting near the child, and consider battery life - will you need to take extra batteries?

If your child has never used, say, a portable DVD player, think carefully before buying one for a long-haul flight. If your child doesn't enjoy it, that's a lot of money spent, and a big part of your entertainment plans gone up in smoke at the worst possible time. Maybe you could let the child try it first, headphones and all. (I've met two-year-olds who are happy to keep headphones on as long as there's sound coming out of them, and seven-year-olds who still take them off right away.)

Food

Yes, I know. Using food to entertain children is a Bad Idea. But I make an exception for long flights, myself...

Additionally, this isn't only about entertainment. Once we were sure we'd ordered children's meals, but somehow the people who loaded the meals on the plane hadn't been told, and the adult meal was smoked salmon baguettes. I was glad to have some food my kids would eat with me, even if it wasn't exactly the healthiest, so I didn't have two hungry crabby tired kids to deal with. Another time we ended up getting bumped onto another flight, on another airline, at the last minute, and the child's meal we'd ordered for our youngest did not of course follow us... fortunately he liked the adult meal he was served, but I felt better knowing I was ready if he didn't.

The usual packed-lunch solutions are difficult to take along on an airplane - and to make matters worse, on international journeys, you may find all non-packaged foods are confiscated on arrival anyway, meaning it goes to waste if your child doesn't eat it. Look through the factory-wrapped foods available at your supermarket - you should be able to find some items that will do the trick, even if it isn't as healthy as making it yourself.

Personally, I think it's good to let the kids have small amounts of special foods that are normally restricted - it helps them forget to be scared and makes the flight seem like a real occasion. However, look out for chocolate - it pains me to say that, but chocolate melts into a goopy mess - and for items like pretzel sticks and fragile crackers that too easily turn to crumbs. Candy-coated chocolates (Smarties, M&Ms, etc) are of course good travellers.

Raisins and other dried fruits are good choices - they don't melt, don't crumble, and take time to eat. Just be aware that they are a mess if stepped on! When our kids were small I'd make a variation on Gorp: about two parts of a Cheerios-type cereal, one part chocolate cereal, and one part raisins.

Yogurt, applesauce, and other wet foods may be classified as "liquids and gels" and confiscated. You can generally bring milk or juice along for babies and toddlers, but not older children. If you'd like to bring drinks on board for them, you'll have to buy them at the airport, after going through security, and unfortunately at airport prices! Tell the clerk you intend to take the drink onto the plane with you, so she can mark it or seal it if necessary, and in any case keep the receipt.

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Created 4 March 2006 * Last Updated 2 May 2008